Talking to a healthcare professional about death and dying
Dr Fran Hakkak, Medical Director from Compton Care and clinical lead for palliative and end of life care in the Black Country, shares her top tips when having conversations with healthcare professionals about death and dying.
We need to talk about dying
Passing away, passing on, falling asleep, departing this world… we use lots of different words to try to avoid talking about death and dying. It’s something that will happen to us all one day, but we are often reluctant to face the facts, so we use other words and phrases to avoid saying the word ‘dying’.
Death often isn’t an easy subject to talk about, but we’ve put together a short film which can help us all to start having discussions with the people we love.
End of life care and support
The NHS has produced an online guide for people who are approaching the end of their life. Some parts of it may also be useful for people who are caring for someone who is dying, or people who want to plan for their own end of life care.
It covers what to expect, thinking about your wishes for your future care, and looking after your emotional and psychological wellbeing.
Visit nhs.uk here to view their online guide.
In the Black Country, we’re clear that the care you get in your final days should be of the same quality, no matter where you live. That’s why local health and care providers have developed a new shared strategy on palliative and end-of-life care.
Resources to help you and your family
Here are some resources to help you and your family talk about death and dying. We’ve split them into sections, to help you find the right help at the right time.
- Dr Kathryn Mannix: Talking about death and dying
- A guide for people who are approaching the end of their life. Some parts of it may also be useful for people who are caring for someone who is dying, or people who want to plan in advance for their end of life care. (nhs.uk)
- Hospice UK: Let’s talk about dying
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Hospice UK: Talking about dying with children
- Connected Palliative Care Sandwell and West Birmingham
- Compton Care - Wolverhampton
- New Cross Hospital Palliative Care Team (new page coming soon)
- Mary Stevens Hospice - Dudley
- Walsall Palliative Care
- Goscote Hospice - Walsall Healthcare NHS Trust
- Dudley Palliative Care
- Palliative care and end of life support services for children and young adults in Wolverhampton
- Homepage - Acorns Children’s Hospice
- Sandwell: Murray Hall
- RESPECT – Recommended Summary Plan for Emergency Care and Treatment - The ReSPECT process creates a personalised recommendation for your clinical care in emergency situations where you are not able to make decisions or express your wishes. You can find more information here.
- Support for members of the South Asian community - Compton Care, in partnership with the Royal Wolverhampton Trust, present a short film which encourages conversation about planning for difficult times in your life. The Advance Care Planning film is aimed at the South Asian community and can be used by professionals or families of individuals.
- Advance Care Planning – Information in other languages. These videos from Compassionate Sheffield were co-produced with members of the Yemini, Pakistani and Roma communities to encourage more people to begin this important conversation:
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No Barriers Here is a unique and innovative approach to advance care planning for people with learning disabilities and a collaboration between The Mary Stevens Hospice, Dudley Voices for Choice, and Art Psychotherapist, Jed Jerwood. Learn more about No Barriers Here.
Once someone has died, how can you support people
- Dudley bereavement team have worked with their local community and have made a short film around grief awareness and a bereavement kindness toolkit to help people find the words to support people.
- Tell us once
- Getting help with funeral costs
- Workplaces: CIPD guide to compassionate bereavement support
- Walsall Bereavement Service
- Dudley Bereavement
- Bereavement Service | Sandwell and West Birmingham NHS Trust (swbh.nhs.uk)
- Wolverhampton Compton Care Bereavement Support
Local authority bereavement services:
Dudley 01384 813970 or go online for Dudley bereavement services
Sandwell 0121 569 6700 or go online for Sandwell bereavement services
Walsall 0300 555 2848 or go online to Walsall council for deaths and funerals
Wolverhampton 01902 554 992 or go online for Wolverhampton bereavement services
Other useful resources
- Birmingham: BrumYODO
- Dying Matters: Dudley
- Dudley: Mary Stevens on 01384 445 423 - find information online for Mary Stevens Hospice
- Sandwell: Murray Hall
- Wolverhampton: Compton Care